The Ribbon in My Journal – Phyllis Hoffman DePiano

Empty Nesters…Again – A Sister’s Tale

Well…I knew it was going to happen! We are empty nesters again! After four months of sharing our “nest,” our upstairs birds have flown the coop! Phyllis and Neal moved out and I have to say it’s bittersweet. It has been a rather interesting experience to share a space with my sister after forty-something years of living apart.

There have been some great things that have come out of our time together. Phyllis did help me clean and organize my sewing room after four years of it being in chaos, and got me interested in sewing again! I think that was her sole mission in moving in with me. She didn’t judge me for all of the beautiful yarn that I have accumulated for all of the projects that I will someday crochet.

Saturday mornings became known as “bacon and biscuits” because that is what my sweet husband would fix all of us as we would sit around the table and laugh and share stories before we would all go our separate ways to start our busy “chore” day. I will definitely miss those times! Phyllis and Neal looked forward to this day because it was the no Pop-Tart day.

I know that I will always be the “baby” and Phyllis will always be the “big” sister. She would remind my husband of this quite often during this time together. You see, Allen and I are celebrating our 35th wedding anniversary this week as we begin our next phase of empty nesting. When Allen and I got engaged, Phyllis wrote him a letter “warning” him about marrying the “spoiled” baby of the family. She told him on more than one occasion that her conscience was clear. He said he should have listened!

We wish Phyllis and Neal the best in their new home and will always look back on this time with many happy memories!