The Ribbon in My Journal – Phyllis Hoffman DePiano

Hair Color is Not Something to Play Around With!

The word change can either excite you or terrify you, depending on your personality. I have friends that are thrilled by change and change as much in their lives as possible all the time. Then, I have friends who are comfortable in the rut, and change is like a disease to avoid. I can’t quite decide where I fall in this scale.

The more I thought about it, a few funny stories came to mind, and I realized that most of the changes we face are not by choice. Even the adjustments to the most mundane things in life make us squirm.

Uh-oh. Have they changed my toothpaste or deodorant again? Or worse, the packaging? When I get the notification that my cell phone needs to be updated, I just want to scream, “Why?” And right when I thought I was learning to use the thing! And let’s not forget the shifts in the digital world. I mean really—the transition from TV to Netflix is terrifying for me.

I often laugh at change when it comes to me. I recently got new glasses. I actually admired these frames on a friend at church, and she gave me the information so that I could have a pair just like hers! Now, she is a highly sophisticated person, and the glasses look fabulous on her. But when I got them, I was unsure. I already had the lenses put in, so I had no choice but to wear them. I secretly hoped no one would notice, but they did! In fact, young people complimented them most often. Hallelujah!

Change really hits home when it comes to hair color. I mean this is just not something to play around with, people! I had been coloring my hair at home before the highlights, lowlights, and other design elements that are popular today came in at hair salons. I had my formula perfected. Then, one Saturday morning, I decided I would try a natural product that was supposedly safer. Was I feeling guilty that I had been damaging my hair? Who knows. I went home, shampooed the “natural” auburn color in, and whammooooo—Christmas red!

Oh my gosh… OK no problem, I can fix this. Six washes, and it will be out because it’s temporary, right? Nope, not temporary. In fact, it got brighter with each wash. So I put on a ball cap and returned to the store to purchase another color to cover my rather festive locks. But again, no luck. Did I mention I was playing the organ the next day at church?

I am in full blown panic mode at this point. So, I remembered the temporary color that my grandmother used, and I returned to the store to buy some of that. I finally toned down enough to get through church the next day. I was a mess all due to change. From that day on, I now have a wonderful person who handles my hair. Imagine if I had my stylish glasses back then, the kids would have really loved that!

On a more serious note—I believe we have to simply embrace change. It is a part of life that comes with maturing and entering new phases. We learn a lot about ourselves when we experience change, because it causes us to persevere. We grow along the way as we enter new times, and hopefully, we will handle them well.

What is your take on change?